RVA Parenting: When is the right time to give your kids a cell phone?


Posted: Oct 07, 2015 11:08 AM EDTUpdated: Oct 08, 2015 5:25 PM EDT

RICHMOND, VA (WWBT) –  Watch VideoCell phones are important tools, especially in an emergency, but when is the right time to give one to your child?

Not only are they often expensive to buy, paying for data or texting could be a pretty big financial commitment as well. If you find yourself having an internal conflict about when to give your child a cell phone, and whether that child is ready, you’re not alone.

“I think that’s the challenge for most parents, ‘How much information do I want to give my child and when?’” social media expert Marcy Williams said. “A lot of parents, they say middle school because they think their child is more responsible. They’re more likely to listen and follow the rules.NBC12-logo-for-website

Not to mention, middle school students often do more activities independently. Some even stay home alone, and you may want to give your child a way to get in touch with you during an emergency, if you don’t have a landline.

“I think it just depends on your child, their level of responsibility [and] their level of understanding,” Williams said. “Also, as a parent, you want to understand the risks of giving them a device too early.”

Williams says middle school is a fine guideline, but doesn’t have to be a hard and fast rule.

Here’s what she says to look for:

  • Do they make good decisions?
  • Can they distinguish between right and wrong?
  • Are they able to react and respond appropriately?

Consider how language skills might be impacted. If your child is texting all the time, using text language or acronyms, is he or she developing good social skills for interacting with others, and with adults in a professional setting?

Williams recommends looking into parental controls, and says you should definitely know your child’s passwords.

“Most carriers have parental controls, and you can get online and you can block certain apps and you have ratings,” Williams explained. “You need to
understand with your provider that how far do these controls go? If you’re on their network, yes they’ll work. But if you’re on wi-fi, do these controls still take into consideration?”

She also has a final warning for parents. Make sure you’re ready to monitor your child on these devices.

That can be a time commitment, and it’s a critical step, she says, to protecting your child and helping him transition to this big step safely.

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Marcy’s Monday Minute: License to Drive – YES!! ~~ Ready to Work – Not Quite??

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You’re 16 and have your license to drive.  If your parents are anything like I am, they are pulling out there hair with
just the thought of you being behind the wheel.  Not only are you starting to drive, but now is the time when you start to really think about what you want to be when you grow up.  By starting to think about what you want to do with your career, it can help you to focus your attention by taking the right classes, getting the right grades, and completing the paperwork and going through the application procedures necessary to get into the right schools or to apply for scholarships and financial aid.

There are MILLION$ of dollars in financial aid and scholarships go unclaimed each year because students just do not take the time to apply. If you have an idea of what you want to do as far as a career, you need to start planning now by finding find out what the education requirements are, then start applying for financial aid and saving your money to make sure you can do it.

You should also start attending some job and college fairs so you can learn everything about jobs and schools that interest to you. If you can talk to people who work in the field and ask them specific questions about their jobs, you can make a more informed decision about whether or not it’s something you might like to do.

If you are in high school, start planning TODAY!!! 

Your HOMEWORK assignment:
Image result for teens planning future1.      Google careers that interest you. 
2.      Search for jobs that have the same requirements of what you enjoy
3.      Start emailing colleges, request brochures and information about a field that interests you
4.      Start researching scholarships in your field of interest now.
Let’s get started today!! 

Five Things Families of First-Generation College Students Need to Know

Dr. James T. Minor, Deputy Assistant Secretary, Office of Post Secondary Education
08/10/2015 2:06 pm EDT

Over the next few weeks more than three million first-year students will show up to well-manicured campuses all across the nation to begin their first semester as college students. It is a special time filled with excitement and random worries about the unknown for students and the families sending them off. Many of these students will be the first in their family to attend college. The success of these students is critically important to achieving President Obama’s goal of America having the highest proportion of citizens in the world with a post-secondary degree or credential. Numerically, this goal is impossible without significantly improving the percentage of low-income and first-generation students who not only enroll in college, but also persist long enough to earn a degree.

Many college students rely on family support. Parents who attended college often enjoy greater financial resources to support their students and they pass along important social and cultural capital about being a successful college student. The likelihood that their children have been exposed to college campuses prior to arriving is much greater. In a recent conversation with a college president, she expressed dismay at the fact that too many parents of first-generation students still send their children off to college “site unseen” as a matter of circumstance. College access and success programs have mainly focused on supporting first-generation students but families must also focus on how to appropriately support their students. Family support (apart from money) is as critical as any campus-based intervention designed to retain and sustain students. The following are five things families of first-generation students should consider before and after lugging that last footlocker into a dormitory and kissing goodbye:

1. Remind them that they belong
Many first-generation students and students from low-income families struggle with imposter syndrome–the inability to internalize their success, or seeing themselves as undeserving of the opportunity given their background. A critically important sense of belonging can also be threatened on college campuses where students find it difficult to relate socially or culturally. Many first-generation students will falsely question whether they belong on a college campus. Go out of your way to remind your student that they are good enough, remind them that they deserve to be in college as much as anyone else, remind them that making adjustments to college is normal and that they will grow more comfortable over time. Your job is to convince them, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that they are worthy of being a college student and that the world awaits their genius.

2. Eliminate unnecessary distractions
The academic and social transitioning to college represent unique challenges for all students. It is important for families to help students focus on what matters most. Equally important is eliminating, or at least minimizing, unnecessary distractions. Some families for example, as an incentive or reward, will consider sending their student off to college with a car before determining whether they actually need one. Parking, maintenance, repairs, or being constantly hit-up for transportation favors of every variety can present a significant distraction, especially in the first year of college. In other instances families can inadvertently burden students with what is happening back home. Staying connected is good; unnecessary worry about circumstances they cannot fix is not. Learning to become a good college student is difficult enough without unnecessary distractions.

3. Plan beyond the first-year
If we agree that one main goal of going to college is to actually graduate, then the celebratory sendoff must be tempered by longer-term planning. One common mistake is underestimating the actual cost of attendance, expenses beyond tuition and fees. Another common mistake is failing to do “completion planning.” This requires families to be thoughtful about what is required for their student to remain in college long enough to actually graduate. Far too many brilliant young people, who have learned to be good college students, do not return the second year because of short-sighted planning.

4. No lonely breaks
For many first-generation and low-income students who will leave home for college, the holiday and seasonal breaks throughout the academic year can be tough to manage. The expense of traveling home can be prohibitive. Yet, the idea of not being around loved-ones during the holidays can be emotionally heavy–especially for students away from home for the first time. Sending a care package with familiar favorites and an encouraging note can go a long way. Thinking about relatives or family friends closer in proximity as a destination during the breaks is also a good option. Students should not be solely responsible for figuring out what to do during academic breaks. Instead of scrambling, they should be able to comfortably and confidently look forward to a short recess like everyone else.

5. Make sure they are connected
For 30 years researchers have theorized that students who are socially and academically integrated into institutions are more likely to persist. Getting involved in campus-based activities outside the classroom is important for success. Help students identify support services on campus before they actually need them. The health center and counseling services, tutoring resources, computer support services, club sport programs, relevant student organizations or campus-based service opportunities are all important for getting students connected and supported. Asking questions about what they are doing outside the classroom is just as important as prying about grades.

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Jack Kent Cooke Foundation College Scholarship Program


The Jack Kent Cooke Foundation College Scholarship Program is an undergraduate scholarship program available to high-achieving high school seniors with financial need who seek to attend and graduate from the nation’s best four-year colleges and universities. Selected from a nationwide pool of applicants, up to 40 students will become Jack Kent Cooke Scholars and have access to funding for up to four years for undergraduate studies.

Each award is intended to cover a significant share of the student’s educational expenses – including tuition, living expenses, books and required fees. Awards vary by individual, based on the cost of tuition as well as other grants or scholarships he or she may receive.

This highly competitive scholarship includes:

Up to $40,000 per year to attend a four-year accredited undergraduate school
Ability to pursue any area of study
Personal advising about selecting a college and navigating financial aid
Multifaceted advising about how to transition to college and maximize the college student experience.

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